Perspective: A husband declares a no-complaining-about-work zone at home, and his spouse wants him to make room for exceptions.
However, the workload can be overwhelming. Some time into my new position, my husband asked that I end my habit of sharing the workday’s problems and frustrations with him, as listening to my stream of negativity was tiresome and off-putting. I understood his position and I stopped talking about work except when sharing something positive or optimistic. To be fair, he doesn’t complain about his job to me.
I know there is a point to be made about finding a different job . But is it unreasonable to have an expectation that a spouse be ready and willing to provide some form of comfort and support on those extra hard days?That’s a “before” question — one to ask before you over-dumped on your husband and wore him down until he insisted on a draconian agreement that you would not dump any more work stress on him ever.
What doesn’t fly, not for me at least, is reworking a highly specific mutual problem into a generalized shouldn’t-my-spouse-support-me? answer. The only right answer is the one you both think is right.I’m that friend who isn’t comfortable sharing information with others. It’s nothing personal. The only person I share my emotions with is my husband.
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