How does she respond to people mistaking her as her kids’ grandmother?
On behalf of older parents, I would like to inquire how to handle being mistaken for my children’s grandmother. Please note that where I live, a lot of moms are older, so I mostly get these assumptions and questions when traveling. A border officer almost became combative when I pushed back against him calling me “Granny” in front of my sons.
And I am still stung when I recall a 60ish woman sharply but rhetorically questioning me in front of my sons during an otherwise pleasant visit to a tourist attraction: “You're the mother?!!!?” The cutting harshness of her tone still hurts. I have also experienced this in a few business settings. Personnel should not always assume a middle-aged woman is a grandmother, rather than a mother. How should older moms and dads respond in these sorts of scenarios?A while ago, we had a reception after our daughter’s baptism. As sometimes happens, the guest list spiraled out of control due to the “if we invite them, then we have to invite so-and-so” principle.
My experience has been that a child's birthday party need involve nothing but cake and a beverage, but I was raised by notoriously informal parents. I don't want my daughter to miss out, but I don't want my wife to resent “having” to cook meals, either.
But as your daughter gets older, she will have her own thoughts about skipping her birthday party because Mommy does not wish to feed the entire town. At that point, you may want to tell her that cake and a beverage are perfectly acceptable — and proper — children’s birthday party fare.Dog rescue volunteer doubles down after her billboard is defaced
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