“I’ve learned a lot from being an escort, and one of the biggest lessons has been that cheating is common but divorce doesn’t have to be.”
When you think of an escort, you might think of a single woman. In a lot of cases, this is true. The sex work industry is still surrounded by stigma, and many people can’t handle being in a relationship with someone whose job is to entertain men.
In most social settings, we either downplay or redirect the conversation away from my job, as it often makes acquaintances uncomfortable. And even those who aren’t will tend to ask so many questions that the subject dominates the conversation, which neither my husband nor I want. Previously, I worked 70 hours a week in finance, constantly glued to my BlackBerry phone and usually stressed out. Now I work 20 hours a week, if that, for the same amount of money and a lot less stress, and my clients are wonderful. My husband is happy for me because he loves me and wants me to be satisfied with whatever job I choose.
There are many escorts who are monogamous. However, I’m not one of them. I’ve learned a lot from being an escort, and one of the biggest lessons has been that cheating is common but divorce doesn’t have to be.It’s extremely difficult, if not impossible, to be all things to a partner. Often the person you choose to have a family with is not the same person who shares all your sexual desires or social interests.
My husband has a strong desire for variety, like many of my clients, whereas I probably haven’t had sex with anyone other than him, my girlfriend and my clients in years. He Some people think they could never be nonmonogamous because they’d get too jealous, but jealousy isn’t as black and white as people think. My husband and I become more envious over each other’s careers than we do about the people we’re having sex with.