Dear Abby weighs in on a husband embarrassing his wife, a boundary-crossing boyfriend’s best friend, and a wife who doesn’t want to be laid to rest alongside her husband.
What do I do if my wife of 36 years wants to be laid to rest somewhere other than next to me in Hawaii?I’m an older woman. My husband and I have been married eight years but were together 15 years prior to our marriage. He is a wonderful, caring man in most ways. But from time to time, he snaps extremely unflattering photos of me, sends them to everyone we know and even orders enlargements made for me.
I have a mouth condition that makes smiling painful, so unless I know a picture is being taken, I look really old and grumpy. I have asked himnot to do this because it’s humiliating when he sends them out to friends and family members. I think it’s unkind and disrespectful and have told him so, yet he persists.
I’m to the point that this has become a deal-breaker in our marriage, and he knows it. He claims he loves me and is proud of me. And yes, we have been to counseling about our relationship in general because of the many times he has humiliated me in public. But he won’t stop. How can I handle this going forward?It appears your “wonderful, caring” husband has a mean streak. He’s getting his kicks by embarrassing you. One way to handle it going forward would be to ignore him when he does it.
In order to preserve his living situation and their friendship, my boyfriend doesn’t want to confront Bill until he crosses a line. I believe he has already violated my boundaries. How do I stop this elephant in the room from growing?I agree that more than one boundary has been violated. Because your boyfriend is unwilling to draw the line, you will have to. Start by telling Bill that you don’t want him calling in the middle of the night or as often as he does.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Malaysia Latest News, Malaysia Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Dear Abby: My parents took in my ex while I had to live in my carI told them it hurt me but they apparently don’t care.
Read more »
Dear Abby: My parents sided with my ex after our divorceDear Abby handles a family dispute and dishes dating advice.
Read more »
Dear Abby: My parents took in my ex-husband and left me living in carThis has caused an ongoing rift between my family and me.
Read more »
Dear Abby: Dating is a sifting process that can be tedious and depressingBut ... because you haven’t yet met 'The One' doesn’t mean the alternative is winding up in a convent.
Read more »
Dear Abby | Friendships that took a hit during Covid need rekindlingNew challenges completely changed the way our house runs. They dominate my day-to-day life.
Read more »
Dear Abby: I don’t know how to open up to my friendsDear Abby advises a woman who is having a hard time discussing the many challenges she and her family went through during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Read more »