This woman apparently thinks my real name is a nickname.
I am not judging him, as I completely understand the problem of stress eating, aging, and having too little time to work out.My issue is his health. I’m terrified of him having a heart attack or a stroke.He eats bags of cookies, brownies and fast food. He refuses to go to the doctor because he says he “needs to lose weight first,” but he won’t make the effort to do so. He hasn’t had a physical in more than seven years.
I cannot bring myself to tell him that he really needs to lose weight, as I don’t want to make him feel worse than I know he already does.It’s getting to the point where something has to change.– Worried About Wellness Wife: Your husband knows that he has an eating and weight problem. He has expressed as much to you, because he says that he is avoiding getting a checkup because of the dreaded scale at the doctor’s office .
So first, you should urge your husband to see his doctor and ask not to be weighed, if being weighed makes him uncomfortable. People sometimes overeat for a variety of complicated reasons, and if a person is committed to diving in and decoding these reasons and triggers, it can help them to regain a sense of control. A nutritionist can help to reset some of these behaviors through education and coaching; a therapist can help by talking about stress and offering coping techniques.
As a daughter who’s recently lost my mother, I would gladly spend those few seconds to make her day better, if I could.You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.
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