Letter-writer wants a polite response for when they ask for help and someone says no.
These are minor, simple chores or things that need fixing. And these are adults I am asking, not children.nature of the request. A friend refusing to clean out your garage must be answered as if you believed in their desire to do so, and in whatever excuse is offered.
A spouse who refuses to empty the dishwasher while you are making the children’s lunches can be treated with measured impatience. A cousin who is unwilling to help get you out of the hole you fell into has no right to complain if your screams attract wider attention.My wife and I got married five years ago and have two children: One is 3, and the other is 1½. We have many older friends whose children have grown up and moved out.
We have been invited to parties at some of those friends’ houses, and, because we cannot really afford a sitter, we have brought our kids with us. This is usually received with comments such as, “I see you brought the little terrors with you.” I feel as if this is a very rude thing to say. I do not know a polite way to respond that also clearly says that I love my children and do not appreciate their being insulted. How should I respond?is certainly rude, although Miss Manners notices you conveniently skipped over your own rudeness in taking them where they were not invited.
I am hosting a small dinner gathering next week. One of my guests called me to say that her friends, a married couple, might be interested in being invited. I don’t know these people, and I find it inappropriate, to say the least, of my guest to suggest this to me. What to reply?issued the invitations for next week, but we’d be delighted to meet your friends another time. Perhaps you will put us together at one of your dinners.
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